["Are you going to die?" When children and adolescents experience the death of a close one].

The illness and death of someone close is a big challenge that affects individuals and the whole system. To understand how children, adolescents and young adults experience the death of a significant other, and more specifically a family member, it is necessary to consider aspects of developmental psychology, the life-cycle phase of the family and the systemic view on the burden and reactions from individuals and the whole system. Palliative care and in particular family-oriented counselling and therapy stabilizes the system. Support of the adult caregiver, facilitating understanding of each other even if there are divergent needs as well as the support of sincere communication are important strategies. Children and adolescents as well as their families are supported to find their coherent way to deal with the imminent death of a close one and to integrate the experience into the biography with maximum mental wellbeing.